Following in My Footsteps

We often think of mother's passing bad body image to their daughters, but we often forget about the mothers of sons. We don't even think of boys thinking about their bodies negative, that is until it affects our homes. My son is 9 years old and he already making comments about his body that i find troublesome. He constantly asks me if he is ," to fat" or " why does his thighs touch", or " if being 100lbs or close to it is TOO BIG". Have i unknowingly passed these self doubt, self loathing attitude on to him? And what do i do about it?

I did tell him that he is only 9 and that his body is constantly changing. However, he is active in sports and is a normal healthy size. I try to keep the extra sweet things out of the house and provide healthy dinners. I don't want him ' counting calories' at 9 and 'exercising to the death'. But, its time for me to be more active and more responsibility as a mother, a parent to provide him with a healthy and well- rounded life style. I want my son to love him self and be ok with himself no matter what. But as a mom, a parent, i do feel a little bit of guilt. I love him with every breathe in me...


Difficult times have helped me to understand better than before, how infinitely rich and beautiful life is in every way, and that so many things that one goes worrying about are of no importance whatsoever...-- Isak Dinesen